We live in a world where success, happiness and love are defined by what we possess and who we're with.I agree that yes,the amount of things we possess may be perceived as a level of success, but in who's eyes do we consider what true success, happiness and love is?
Like a chameleon, our lives are meant to go through transition no matter who we are.
If you're life is not changing then you should begin to ask yourself is it you or are you fighting nature and its purpose for your life. As for myself, this statement is a part of who I am as a young lady now and becoming later on.
One of the things that I have been challenged with and meditated on recently is that why in places of where people are in vast numbers, how is that even with family,friends and even a soul mate, we still tend to feel a sense of loneliness? Loneliness is defined as being without company. Okay, so if this is the definition then why when in the presence of company we still feel lonely? This experience can be so painful that in most cases in society today it results in suicide.I am convinced that by following the word of God it can get you two things- the result you want or the result GOD wants. If you are of christian faith then you know the only 'want' that matters is what God wants and NOT you.
Growing up in a home where a family member or friend was always present, I would often isolate myself. I know you're probably asking why was that.
Well I have been trying to figure that one out myself as well. Until recently attending university and a campus filled with activities and ways to make friends, I am still isolating myself when the activities or people don't interest me. So as the weeks went by and I realized that I have not been able to find my niche of like-minded people, I started to get to...well...lonely.
Of course I got frustrated but who was I frustrated with? At myself or at God who is the control pilot gearing my plane? As a result it brought me to the place of asking myself why am I feeling lonely now more than ever at this point in my life?
The reason I say this point is because there is so much I am grateful for and have accomplished at 24 years of age,motherless,single,a new college student at one of the top black schools and a foreigner in a strange land. Don't get me wrong I have people that I talk to and hang out with, but they don't neccessarily keep me happy all the time. So my question has to be answered. So it was.
I decided to sit in a dark room, quiet, still and eyes filled with tears I asked again why am I lonely in this new place? I know that I am very friendly, but that was not it.After a few minutes, the response given was that I feel lonely but really I am not??!!!!! Yeah, going back to what I previously mentioned about whose eyes was happiness defined in. Well apparently I was drawn back to the word of God that says in Deut 30 verse 6," DO NOT BE AFRAID OR DISCOURAGED, FOR THE LORD GOES WITH YOU;HE WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU." God has and is the only one that does not lie to us when everyone else does. So if He has not forsaken me then that means not only is He always around me, but i should never feel lonely.
Which brings me to my next question. Are we as human beings lonely because we desire to be with someone or are we just really empty and have no understanding of contentment internally. This was where I found myself. Basically my instruction at the end of my time alone in that room was to be still, wait, allow HIM to fill me and show me true love and that my niche of people were being prepared for me.
Another reason that was given to me through someone else was what if you go out and seek people and things that God did not desire for your life and then they become influential in some form or fashion and destroys me as a person? That statement really got me!!!!
Now, to combat that loneliness is a state of mind and not a feeling, I am learning how to spend time alone, enjoying my own company and being joyful and when the feeling comes again, I tell my father WHO IS ALWAYS AROUND TO LOVE ON ME SO IT WILL GO AWAY.While waiting to be surrounded by a niche of people whose company I enjoy I am letting God love on me and show me new ways of being internally content and fully grasping that LONELINESS IS A STATE OF MIND AND NOT A FEELING.
So if you're like me or the millions of people around the world, there is nothing or no one that can truly make you happy and not feel lonely again. Because when that thing that you accomplished has been done or that soul mate you have been waiting on comes, you can still get lonely. According to the word of God there is no money, material or person that provide true happiness. Which means that a process of where you need to groomed, confident and sure of who you are and what makes you You , needs to occur.In diagnosis of this plaguing disease called "feeling lonely and depressed", the only prescription that will cure this problem is getting to know of someone by the name of JESUS. He works in conjunction with God and the Holy spirit who resides in you. But to get to them, you dont have to make an appointment, you must first ask them to come into your life and fix what's wrong and then you can be healed!!
If you have any questions or concern please shoot me an email at ladylorneka@gmail.com
